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So as some of my followers may remember, I’ve been in a relationship with another asexual for a while (it’s been a little over a year now). While we have been happily living together in his hometown, things have been a little rocky for a few weeks. Finally, last night he decided to tell me what was going on.
Apparently, my boyfriend has started experiencing sexual fantasies and urges recently :[ We’re a bit worried what it might mean for our future, since I am definitely still asexual, and his desires have been for men, not women… We discussed the possibility of having to involve someone else in our relationship, but that’s territory I didn’t even think we’d have to consider. We both definitely do not want to break up, but he doesn’t exactly want an “open” relationship. He says if it comes down to it, he wants to find a single person he can trust for a sexual partner. While that’s all fine and good, I guess I can’t say I don’t feel a tad bit nervous about having someone else be so close to him. I trust him now, but when sex does become a bigger deal for him I worry it may cause tension for us.
So I guess I’m just looking for some advice on what I should do, how I should try to handle or view this situation… He says he won’t do anything about it until we get our own place, but that may not be too far off. I want to be mentally and emotionally prepared for what may eventually be the future of my relationship with him. Some asks or comments on this would be really appreciated. Thanks for reading.